Friday, August 22, 2008

I Notice Deaf Pattern here at DeafRead...





Hi, folks,

I want to express with you what I have experienced and observed Deaf people coming and leaving DeafRead... I have studied those pattern. Interesting experience for me. I let you know those Deaf people come to DeafRead to enjoy the reading, enjoy with signing in the videos. However, they did not expect the criticism and negative comments. Me, I think I am okay so far with my v/blog. Mine is low profile which helps a great deal. I try my best.

I let you know that those intelligence Deaf people tried to do their part with DeafRead. They get frustrated over and over again. Then they left DeafRead. Seriously, intelligence Deaf people keep in touch with another intelligence Deaf people. I admit it. I am sorry, yes. They need feedback. For example, in my hometown, there is a Deaf clubhouse, and a deaf school. There are many intelligence Deaf people around here. Yet they live on their own. They are over there, and I live on my own here. My friends live far and out of reach. Now here the Internet is awesome, because I can talk and network with many Deaf people through Internet. It is really a blessing to have the Internet.

I talked to some Deaf people, and discovered that they really do not like the negative messages nor comments. They are sensitive people. Truly.. Some Deaf people have thin skins while other have thick skins.

I really enjoyed the signing circle. I have learned a great deal from this signing circle. This does not mean I support every one's speakings. No, no... All concept, no.. I just supported some people, talked, shared the ideas, and give feedback. I enjoyed this approach. I liked the signing circle, due to friends supporting friends. I do not see this in DeafRead. Also, I have time to listen the video comments, taking my time to watch those comments. Chat rooms and Yahoo Live chat rooms are nonstop, limited time, focusing one another to watch on their time, not self time... You understand? That... If you had to do something else, and to come to chat room, you miss all the information.

I would like to see circle, any circle with taking turns (video comments). I wrote on my up date status message about the circle with video comments on Facebook. I would like to see the signing circle in Facebook, because I do not see anything in FB, like something is missing. Same thing with DeafRead. What, talking, and taking turn, fellowship, making conversation. That is something I am looking for. I am hoping for this happening soon, real soon...I am expressing how I want for this.

Please remember that people are not perfect. Not. They are learning. So am I. I do support Deaf Babies Coalition. I care about DBC. I also appreciate Deafhood and its theories, practices.. Umm, I like the studying of self as a Deaf person. Maybe better yet ASL person (for hearing people's sake). My number one concern is Deaf babies. Remember I am from hearing family. Parents hearing and I had hard time communication. It was not easy. I would like to see parents hearing communicate with Deaf babies, feeling comfortable, cooperating well with Deaf babies. I am willing to do anything for the Deaf babies.

OK, back to the subject, about Deaf people leaving DeafRead due to frustration, think about them. I want to encourage them and give them support, our support. Unity, and fellowship... They are not forgotten, not. I hope they mull over, and decide to come back... They need to feel comfortable to join back. Comfort zone is important.

Thank you, Butterfly, like me...Deaf

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3 comments:

mervynjames224 said...

It's about expectation. If you log in expecting it to be the same as amongst signingfriends,then there is dissapointment, because deaf.read is a public place, that attracts many types of deaf and HoH people as well as aid using and CI implanted people, alos, and like most only places, theyhave their share of killjoys too.

In a 'signing circle' peer pressure would prevent it happening, online it is not so easy. Perceptions of what IS a deaf person are being challenged, as they will do in a public place like this.

I think deaf.read is very much a forum for debating issues, and not really a 'social site' which is prehaps what some expect. Many of us socialise offline ! It is a fact that when you want to talk about deaf issues and things like deafhood etc, then, socially you feel unable to do this, or, peers want to lighten up a bit !

Not everything is political and contentious but issues here tend to be, it perhaps reflects the fact, there is no place else to do it.... deaf people like to talk ! it's what we do !

deafk said...

Hi, MM,

Thanks for sharing your view with us..

Yes, I understand that is how things go with DeafRead those days, and yet some people did not stay. They left.

Debating issues... some people can handle them well, while another are not familiar with dealing those debating issues. It may be open and shut experience for them once they experience the criticism and negative messages.

Here in USA, people are searching for the comfort zone there or there.

Yes, we do socialize. If there is more option to social, why not?

Thank you, aslk, former deafk

deafk said...

Hi,

Also, I want to mention one thing here..

Sometimes, you have only a few minutes at socials, sports, or anywhere, it just happens... You want more. That is where the internet comes for. More expansion, smile.

aslk