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Wow, that's a tough and sensitive subject to discuss out in public. I agree it is critical to educate people about DV. You may want to allow anonymous comments from some people who don't want to expose themselves as they may be still in the DV relationships. Thank you for your courage to share this. I am glad you are out of the relationship. It is still saddening that many people are still living in fears at their homes. I wonder about ADWAS organization (I think it is Abused Deaf Women Association something). I agree DV is not limited to women only but also men and indeed some gay men and lesbians, actually anywhere, no matter what races, religions, sexual orientions, other diversities. It is very good to educate about those 9 rights. Excellent! Thanks, Bob
Hi, Bob,
Yeah, me toughie, eh?? Whee...
By the way, remember Robert Adlerman, your class at MSD? He was killed by his ex-fiance, after he told her that the relationship was over. He experienced the DV that he wanted to end the relationship...
good to hear from ya again!!
deafk
I just changed the comment moderation to anonymous for this...
Thanks, Bob
Yes, Robert was my classmate. I was shocked to learn the news when it happened (I think back in April 2005) murdered by his deaf ex-girlfriend, Mary. I wonder what happened to her. Is she in jail? Trial? Guilty verdict? I met Robert and his ex-girlfriend at my class reunion at MSD back in 2004 just before it happened. He was a great, talented man especially car mechanic expert. He is sorely missed.
Bob
I can understand that you have a right to go to ADWAS to ask them the question about man who can lives in shelter. I have no idea since I have seen deaf women lives to share with ASL. I sugguest you to contact if the man can lives the shelter. I am not quiet sure they will find other shelter for men. I am not sure about that.. Many men involved in D.V.
D.V. have great impacted in your lifetime. I go through similiar as very senstive and really impossible to explained you better, difficult time of my expereinced.
It is good to talk about our expereniced.It is also very painful relationship.
Bob,
I just want to correcting you ADWAS, It is ADult Deaf Women Advocay Service is in Seattle, WA.
They have a great offer opitions.
Smile :-)
I recall Mary was being charged guilty, and was put in prison. Do not know how long she would be there. No information about that afterward.
No, DeafDixie,
It is Abused Deaf Women's Advocacy Services... Here is their website address:
http://www.adwas.org/
Gooossshh!
Hey, I am not Deaf Dixie.. I am actually Deaf Pixie.. sometime people mixed with me and Deaf Dixie..
You are right.. but Bob say I wonder about ADWAS organization (I think it is Abused Deaf Women Association something).
That's why I lives in Seattle for 27 years.
DeafK,I did not give Bob for a website. Thank for brought up with website names. I forgot! Correct our blog names. Wink
Deaf Pixie
Butterfly, Like me ..Deaf's v/blog.
Thank you for give Bob for website.. and what more..his comment say
Correct about website. I forgot to put down.. Bob say "I wonder about ADWAS organization (I think it is Abused Deaf Women Association something). The reason why I gave him a correct name of the deaf shelter in Seattle. somewhat I forgot about website. That's ok to additional something I missed it.
By the way, My blog is Deaf Pixie.. Someone's blogs is another Deaf Dixie..
Right after,I read and laugh about mixed with my blog is Deaf Dixie.. it was suppose to be Deaf Pixie..
Smile...
I'm experiencing DV at home and I'm still uncomfortable to leave home for many reasons. If I do, my husband would use my children to get me back. It's not worth for me to leave my husband. One of my children has diabetes. I experience almost every night that I couldn't sleep. When I stayed at my friend's house for five days and it was so peaceful. I could sleep so well. He damaged my garden and he didn't care for my daughter's dog. It's gone. My daughter still cries for more than 10 months so far even that she has a new dog and cat. She still thinks of her missing dog.
What can I do? It's best if we all leave without any judge. If I do, I would get in trouble for kidnapping the kids. It's no good for me.
Hi, 7:57pm Anonymous,
I am sorry that you have to experience this way. You do not deserve this. Try ask ADWAS at their website and see what they say? www.adwas.org
Well, there is a couple of small committee of the Deaf in each state. Ask ADWAS for that.
You may get back to me, if there is no success getting help. Please do keep in touch with me if you could not get anything else for help.
I am sure there is a way out for you.
Hi Kathy,
I am so sorry that you went through experience. I am glad that you are at peace with yourself and your children. That is the most important of all.
I want to thank you for sharing your experience with us all and providing us resources that will help some of us in the future.
Yes my office has worked with shelter agency closely by providing interpeting services as well as technical devices (tty, fm system and so on) to make sure victims are in safe and accessible place to live in. My office also provides counselling services for victims too.
It is very important that victims need a good break from violence that no one deserve at all!
Thanks again for sharing with us, Deaf Butterfly!
Deafchip
Deaf PIXIE!!
lol... yeah, I do remember Deaf Dixie. That is why I got mixed up with your name. I am soo SORRY!!
Deaf Pixie, ok.. I shall remember this way better after this!! :D
deafk
After you filed for divorce, do your children still visit your ex-husband? How do you get along?
DeafK,
Alright, I know it is mixed up.. Actually she is looking like me.. My hair is medium- brown short.. I am wearing glasses.. Dixie doesnt wear glasses.
I am just remind everyone for mistaken names.. Smile...
Everyday I learn from D.V. and from victims,too. Sort of things I keep want to encourage Deaf community in Portland or Salem to set up as such same as ADWAS does.
I know too many deaf people been go through victims. Oregon doesnt have a deaf service.. Very few.. not alot.
Seattle is opportunity to have a deaf service and ADWAS are very excellent for deaf community. It is very important to connect and familiar situation. :-)
Deaf Pixie.. :D
As a female person, I use my anonymous to protect myself. I had dated a woman a few times almost 2 years ago. Suddenly she hollered at me thru a few e-mail etc etc. I got the message that she is an abuser. I dumped her immediately. I cannot accept the scary verbal abuses from her again. I was pretty shaken and asked my wonderful friend for help - how to approach in the better way in the email to her. I had all of her garden tools with me. (a long story) She demanded me to meet her in the halfway etc etc. A quick thinking I had decided to drop off the stuffs at the my friends' home. I told her to fetch her stuffs over there. (That's how I met her thru there). I refuse to see her alone again because I don't want to get mentally or even possibly physically abused by her. Luckily I caught the early signs of her scary behavior. I hope that woman gets help that she needs.
Hi, Deb Ann,
We are ok on our terms. He is no longer at home. I feel free at home at last. He is good to the kids, that is important.
thanks for asking.
deafk
Deaf Pixie,
Yes, I agree with you that I learn something new about DV... A lot of people do need our support from time to time.
Anyone can go to Deaf center for the referrals at least.
Thanks again... Deaf Pixie
5:53 Anonyomous,
That was the smart move... It is like following your instincts (or guts) for this. Luckily you were able to avoid the person like her.
What if you become familiar with someone who becomes an abuser later? Anyway, as long as you are okay at this moment, you are okay!!
Thanks for sharing your story with us.
deafk
Hello All,
Was surfing through the internet and saw this one post about Male victims. I know I am late but...
Males can be victims as well. The reporting percent of male victims is very low because a male victim feels ashamed and or embarrassed. They often do not seek out for help that they need.
If you are a male victim and you have not yet find the help you need, I encourage you to contact ADWAS (Abused Deaf Women’s Advocacy Services). They have Hotline partnership with the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They can help you with assistance of finding nearest programs for Men or even shelter for Men in your home area. Here is the Hotline contact information:
Deaf Advocates from Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm (PST)
AIM: ADWASHotline
Email: ADWAS@NDVH.org
Videophone IP: 69.17.111.201
Hearing Advocates 24 hours/7 days a week
Phone: 1-800-799-7233
TTY: 1-800-787-3224
Good Luck and Stay Safe.
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